This time on another thought
Right or Wrong.
Either or both are answers the the question!!
Question is, There are situations where communicating is difficult, so we dont communicate!! Is it Right or wrong!!
Professionally, I am happiest when people communicate with each other (phone / email) as I am a telecom guy :-)
SITUATION 1:
Love Angle.
A friend of mine @ had been loving a girl for over 10 years (its an old story). @ loving # for 10 years has been a hidden love. # takes @ as her best friend and discusses with him on all her crushes on various proposals she receives from other guys!!
@ keeps his love to his heart (doesnt communicate it to #) for a fear of losing a good friend.
Agreed!!
But I guess even if # doesnt love @, am sure she wud not feel right the day she comes to know that @ had always thought of her as his soul mate!! Atleast she would like him to be communicative to her. Isnt that part of the friendship?
I guess so!!
So @ after a lot of push proposes to #. As expected (since his luck is same as mine :-)), # rejects and a 10 year old friendship comes to an end!!
I dont know now if that push was right or wrong!!
But atleast, now @ has saved his life from the word "KAASH" (Hindi).
Am sure 20 years from now when @ is pissed off from his then wife ;-), wud never think, "Kaash, maine # ko propose kiya hota"
SITUATION 2:
Another friend, @, as per him loves #. @ says he has family commitments and as he cant communicate to his family about #, he plans to marry a girl of his family's choice and then do something to get # back into his life.
Since I am a friend of @, I find it good for #. But I still feel if this communication happens at the right time, it would be good!!
Delaying a communication is not solving it, it is just delaying a problem (or even bigger) for a later stage.
Lets see how things move with @.
All the best to him!!
SITUATION 3:
Another friend @ is in his 8th Semester (of girl search) of Matrimony!!
So @ called me saying that he is closing in on 1 girl finally .............. @ is so happy about it ........... he finds the girl, #, intelligent, interesting, practical and beautiful i.e. all that he dreamed off!!!
As per @, even # is ok with him.
@ and # talk a lot.
Then suddenly one day, # communications stop!! Thats fine!!
@ is all confused on what to do. He tried his best of sending a communication to get her response. All other official processes are on and parents have spoken!!
No commitments have been done by anyone, anywhere!!
#, in her talks always assured that she will communicate whatever, good or bad, right or wrong, to @ as he has opened his life to her completely and so has #.
But no communication again in this case definitely kills @!!
Probably a timely "No" (if thats the case) could help him move on!!
Saves him, his family for basing their dreams on #!!
Again, nothing right / wrong .............. there could be issues (not related to this decision) at # end!! but no communication confuses all!!
So, I think, communication is important.
Sometimes delaying definitely helps (atleast in communicating problematic stuff)
But if we do a %age check, I believe, communicating in advance helps a bigger problem at a later stage!!
Or rather you just prepone a disaster for you!! But atleast you save yourself from living with fear of that danger till the time you actually face it!!
Being from sales, I play with communication and its timings only :-)
So communication, mode of communication, timing of communication, all are equally important!! But at the same time, quicker communication helps either parties understand the situation better, mutually!!
What do you say?
Btw .............. am just back from Diwali Holidays @ Hardwar!!
It was awesome ............ some 15 school friends met this time .............. probably for last bachelor diwali for most of us!!
So many photos, talks, discussions, gossips and FUN, FUN n FUN!!
